Relationships Part 1: What is my ideal partner in a relationship…
Part of the knowledge i attained in my yoga practice, that self-acceptance and self-love
are crucial to unconditional love. My blog last year I wrote about “first
love”, loving you first. This year I am adding self-respect to that list. I am
also adding a new word taught to me by a man (yes a man! i too was shocked!), “value” and “worth”.
Everyone simply wants to be loved and recognized. People
need human touch, we need attention, we need support, we need to feel as though
we are a part of “something” (friendship, team, relationship).
In terms of a relationship type of love; I believe you need
to have a foundation to build from certain basics.
Some people say be
friends first, I disagree. I want my friends to be my lifetime friends, and I
would not change that to test if a relationship would work.
I want to still explore my partner; I want my relationship
to be a journey, together both exploring each other’s world; while at the same
time creating a world of our own.
More importantly I believe there has to be chemistry, which
cannot be made or faked. You either have chemistry with someone or you don’t.
I want my partner to be attracted to me in every way
possible (mentally, physically and spiritually), that for me would be one of
the highest compliments, and for that you need chemistry, as well as a decision
made by both parties to daily be choosing each other.
What I wanted in a relationship or from a partner…
(firstly never lose who you are as a person but always lose yourself within the moments)
I was asked this questions last year, although I knew the
answer I had a hard time putting my thoughts in to words, and more importantly
I was afraid I would chase this person away.
However he was quite strong in mind and did not run away at
that moment.
He was of the same opinion, and even added to my list my two new
words “Value” and “worth”, then he proceeded expand my thoughts on
relationships, life and religion.
My ideas of the right relationships since I was a young girl
was simple; I thought I had to get married, stay at home and be unhappy. I mean
that’s why my sister and I had to wake up early on a Saturday to bake and cook,
right? So I decided I will marry someone who will live in another country, in
our house we would also have separate bedrooms, and I did not like kissing and
least of all physical touch. (Ask my sisters,
they so full of love, I love them to bits)
I have limited experiences and knowledge when it comes to
relationships. Trust me the last “relationship” I had, cannot be put into that
category as it was so short lived, and now more confusing than ever.
To answer his question, and the many who have asked. I would say as I
wrote in my diary… a tall, handsome man…
however everyone is taller than me, so no issues there. (lol!) As for handsome;
“beauty” really is in the “eye of the beholder”, a beautiful face comes from a
beautiful heart, mind and soul. (I know this for a fact. When someone looks at
you like you are the most beautiful girl in the universe, the smallest concerns
of looks disappear completely)
However in my next blog….
I will share what I thought would have been my ideal partner
and the ideal relationship in my mind:
(My words as I sent in my message… and a
bit extra)
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